When Self-Help Actually Helps


“If success is my duty, why the hell am I not acting like it?  Does this type of gun-ho motivation only have to come to me in the morning?  Where the hell is it in the evening?” This is how I’ve been feeling lately.

I’d go out on a sturdy limb and assert that many, especially those well-versed in the arts of self-help, have felt this way. “Shouldn’t things be better by now? Why isn’t it getting better after all this time.

“Under pressure, you don’t rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training.”

Unknown Navy Seal

Self-help training, done well, will bring you back to one fact: If things are going to be able to change, it all starts by changing yourself. Identify the limiting beliefs, change your perspective about it by identifying three reasons why that belief is false, then determine what the empowering belief will be.

This is where self-help really helps. When you get into those times of self-loathing and doubt you can reach back to that rope that’s been secured by repeated practice. You can then take action pull yourself out and kick the fears and doubts in the teeth and keep on moving.